Do you ever get so righteously drunk that you think it’s a good idea to prank your sober self?
And one of the more memorable times this happened I ended up registering myself on a pen pal finder website.
Two days later I get an email saying I have a message from a Japanese chap, aptly named Super K!.
Now in retrospect, this is where I should have deleted the email, the profile, the pictures on my phone from the drunken night that lead to this and a million other more sensible things.
Sadly, I’m not sensible. So I decided to read the email and as it turned out, this Super K! seemed like a cool bloke. What’s the harm I remembered thinking to myself…? And messaged him back.
These messages went back and forth for about a month or so and Super K! and I were starting to become buds (all be it online ones).
I even told a few of my actual, genuine, real life, human being, non-internet friends about it and bar from the odd bit of mockery for being a tosser, (and rightly so) they seemed intrigued too.
Then I get an email from him…
I’m in England, in Lewisham!! We should meet up!!!
Again what I should have been thinking to myself at this point was “Of all the places to visit and he chose to stay in Lewisham..? Really?”
(Dustmen in Lewisham do things differently).
In reality, I thought ‘That’s awesome!’ and messaged him back, ‘Why don’t you come to Croydon and we can go for a drink? You can meet the rest of my friends and it’ll be a right laugh.’
We arranged to meet up and ironically none of “my friends” could make it.
So instead I dragged along my little sister (she was really happy about this).
The first thing that struck me about Super K! was his hair (it was immaculate). This was shortly followed by the way he dressed (very, VERY well – if a tiny bit effeminate and sparkly). He was also pretty short and he had this curious way of making his hips wiggle as he walked, instead of his shoulders.
We went to the pub and had a few drinks, chatted about a range of light-hearted subjects and seemed to be getting on well. I got him to confirm what the kanji tattoo on my right bum cheek says (another story for another time) and in general, he just seemed like good company.
Then my little sister asks him
‘So why are you staying in Lewisham of all places?’
It turns out he’d moved there.
To become a hairdresser.
Six months ago.
Then he looked at me dead in the eye and said…
‘And for the gay scene… Do you know any good gay clubs?’ then he put his hand in front of his mouth and managed a squeaky laugh that can only be phonetically written as ‘TeheEeeeeheeeheeah! Aha!’
Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not what you’d call 100% straight), but when you’re sitting in your local pub and an effeminate looking Japanese hairdresser announces; he’s lied, has been living in Lewisham for the last six months then tries to stroke your thigh and lean in to kiss you on your near to non-existent neck. I think I was justified in recoiling in what can only be described as wide-eyed #whatthefuckdude fuelled terror.
To top things off, my wonderful dearest darling little sister, reacted the same as I can imagine any other little sister/witch would do in the situation. She stifled her laugh, said she was going to get another round of drinks in, then burst into fits of giggles as soon as she was out of earshot.
Then started telling anyone we knew in the vicinity of course…
Luckily for me there was a LGBT+ night at the local alternative bar close by. I suggested we gave the place a visit (my intention was to hook him up with one of my friends, then bugger off (no pun intended).
As it happens this plan failed, it failed badly.
Because even though I was introducing him to pretty much everyone in the club. Who in one case politely offered to
‘Knock his tight little backdoor in.’
Super K! didn’t seem interested (although this got another ‘Eeeeeheeeheeah!’).
In fact, he had pretty much decided he was going to stick to me like shit to a blanket instead.
Now whilst walking around a bar, talking to your mates and introducing someone to them is normally considered a sociable thing. Two hours of being followed by an artfully camp, limp-wristed manboy, was starting to look like I’d made him hold onto my pocket (metaphorically).
Now as you can probably imagine, this entire situation was starting to piss me off. Not wanting to seem to be rude I informed Super K! I was leaving, and if he wanted, I could show him where he needed to go to get the bus home. He took this as an invitation to partake in a spot of man-scuttling and near skipped out of the club (my image/orientation has been in doubt in that place ever since).
It took about ten very awkward minutes to get to the bus stop with Super K! In tow. It wouldn’t have taken that long normally but Super K! spent every waking second trying to hold my hand on the way.
We got to the bus stop.
We waited at the bus stop…
He tried to kiss me again.
I again politely informed him I wasn’t interested and asked him to stop. Then I patiently pointed out, that he was quite slight and if he carried on I’d level him.
(Hello sir! Today we have a special on fist and floor).
I think it was at this point that he finally realised I wasn’t interested and as far as I can tell took his go-to option in that situation.
He went apeshit.
In between him screaming at me in broken Japanese, flailing his arms around like a hyperactive windmill, some community support officers decided to show up (their sense timing and ability to turn up when not needed is amazing).
It’s common knowledge that community support officers are good at two things, being self-entitled and being useless at anything that isn’t harassing teenagers. So unsurprisingly upon seeing what was going on, they decided to intervene.
I was trying to explain the situation to one of these rent-a-cops while Super K! Is screeching things like ‘HE SAI HE WAN NO TO FUK ME! *SOB* NOW NO FUK I GO HOME! I FUK HIM!’ in the background at the other officer.
Then it went quiet.
The chimp in uniform and I turn around to see Super K! running at some speed towards a night bus. He gets on it and the bus drives off.
I shared a moment’s worth of bafflement with the support officers, shrugged at them and went home.
Strangely enough, I never heard from Super K! again.
Moral of the story..? Cultural exchange can go visit someone else itself if it thinks it’s getting anywhere near my arse.